The Persuasion Psychology

When you look deeply into the psychology of persuasion and influence, you realize that what you say, while important, makes up  only a very small part of the overall communication process.

On this new blog you’ll discover a lot of tips on  persuasion psychology, about how to positively influences others and connect deeply with peoples unconscious minds. I’m Nathan Thomas, and I’ve spent years using, teaching and studying these techniques, so I can’t wait to meet you are share some new ideas as this blog grows and evolves.

Today we are going to look at three ways in which you can control your subconscious or non verbal communications in such a way that you appear confident and likable, and your ideas become powerful and irresistible.

1: focus on intent

In every interaction you have, you will have an intention.
This intent may just to relax and have a good conversation, or you may wish to close a sale, make a deal, help someone over a problem, or just make someone feel good.

Whatever your intention is, before you even begin talking, focus on it, acknowledge it, and allow it to shape every action you take.

Imagine yourself having achieved this intent, and notice how you feel. It is this feeling that will be your unconscious compass, as feelings are, after all, one of the main languages of the unconscious mind. (Other key ‘languages’ are symbols, stories and triggers, more on these in future posts)

Setting an intention is like giving your unconscious mind a destination. Once your intention is decided, you can relax, and allow your own mind to take you there.

Sometimes your intention will be simply ‘to give this person a powerful experience as I learn more about persuasion and influence’ and other times you will have a definite, specific goal.

Either way, make sure you know where you are going right from the start, so you don’t charge in blindly without any sort of goal.

2. project the right feelings and Go There First

In other posts on this blog we will explore simple and direct body language techniques. Today however it’s important for you to realize that the most powerful body language signals come automatically, and are guided by your own emotional state.

Here’s a simple exercise:

Imagine yourself feeling happy, and allow your physiology to change to reflect this.

What happened? Did you sit up straighter (or imagine this happening)? Did your breathing change?

The simple fact is the way you feel reflects the way you act, so if you want the person you are speaking to to feel excited…  feel excited yourself!

Just as your intent will guide the overall conversation, allow your feelings to guide your body language, and the subtle suggestions your give out without even realizing it.

If you still don’t totally get what I mean here, think about a time when you have met someone new, and instantly decided whether or not you liked them before they even spoke a word.

Body language and tonality is hugely powerful, and it’s interpretation is as unconscious as it’s projection.

A couple of years ago I had the opportunity to ask my friend Igor Ledochowski (a giant in the world of conversational hypnosis) what he would teach someone about hypnotic persuasion if he only had 10 minutes with them.

His answer was simple: He would teach them how to Go There First.

Tip 1 and 2 should have you thinking about just how important your own emotional state is in the persuasion you do, so it’s time for tip 3:

3. How to change your emotional state

All this stuff about Go There First isn’t all that useful if you don’t know how to do it in the first place, right? So, here is one way that you can quickly and easily enter any emotional state that you like.

We’ll cover some more advanced methods in future posts, but for now this technique should serve you very well indeed!

This is very simple revivification and amplification.

Let’s say you want to project a state of calm. (I’m sure you can imagine situations in which making someone else feel calm can come in handy).

So, think back to a time when you felt really calm. Maybe you were with friends or family, maybe alone. Imagine one specific example, it doesn’t have to be the best one, but make it a good one.

Think about where you were, and what you were doing, and ask yourself how do you know that you were feeling so calm?

Remember that time, and feel that feel all over again.

Feel this emotion through you, and think about the feeling itself. Imagine it as a color, and make it brighter. Imagine it as a shape within your body, and make it larger.

Play the the brightness, shape and other sub modalities until this feeling is really powerful. Even more powerful than when you were really there.

Allow this feeling to fill you up, and imagine it embracing the other person (or people), so they too can be filled with this color, this energy.

Don’t try and change your physiology. Just relax and notice what happens, and don’t be surprised to find your whole way of speaking and behaving just totally changes.

Your own emotions are powerful things, and the key to  persuasion psychology is to learn how to control them.

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I’ll be seeing you very soon,
Cheers,
Nathan Thomas

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